Constructive Criticism

So what is constructive criticism? How do you give constructive criticism? Well for givers, you're not just gonna tell a person you don't like something on them just cause that's your opinion.But saying "Oh that dress looks nice on you" would be a way to give constructive criticism. Now lets not misinterpret this whole talk about giving constructive criticism. We don't have to walk on egg shells now and have to wonder if we're saying the wrong thing ..blah blah blah! We should be able to express ourselves but we don't have to express ourselves in a negative way. Does that make sense?

For example, I'm not gonna call my sister and tell her "Omg why do you guys live on the Northside its so ghetto!" Hmm, hello...she has a house and I still live with my mom so was there any room for me to make that comment? No! I don't own anything and they do. So who cares that its not in Katy, The Woodlands or Sugarland.... its a house they own and will be able to sell for more money once the metro rail is built. So instead I should congratulate her and tell her that I"m so happy they bought their first house as a couple! And it is a nice house as well!

In other words.... DON'T HATE, CONGRATULATE!!!

I just wanted to post a little article I found about what "constructive criticism" is. We have the right to voice our opinion. We're not always going to agree with one another, we're not always going to have the same thoughts...that's what makes us unique as human beings.

So here is a little something for you guys to read and apply to your personal life. This article applies to life in general. Relationships at work, school,family,your children or spouse.

Here is the thought of the day.... Family is the most effective form of government. - Robert Half

Constructive criticism is criticism kindly meant that has a goal of improving some area of another’s person’s life or work. Often constructive criticism refers specifically to the critique of someone else’s written or artistic work, in perhaps a teacher/student setting, that would allow that person to further improve the work or to improve their approach to future endeavors. However, constructive criticism can also apply to a critical reasoned analysis of a person’s behavior, as in a patient/therapist setting or a group therapy setting. Parents also try to employ constructive criticism to help their children improve their lives.

The trouble with constructive criticism is that not all people are receptive to it. They may either feel their self-esteem shrinking under criticism, or they may feel that all criticism is negative. This can destroy the intent of constructive criticism.
Further, not all people who think they are employing constructive criticism are actually being helpful. They may think all criticism is helpful and may not spare the person any details or couch the criticism in ways least likely to make a person defensive. Communication is loaded with multiple intentions, especially in a parent/child or spousal relationships. Thus people may not know how to actually employ a critique of one aspect of a person without involving their own feelings or frustration that make a critique negative.

The link below is steps to giving constructive criticism, what to do and not to do... Please take some time out and read a few points.
http://www.wikihow.com/Give-Constructive-Criticism

Love and Respect!

I was just thinking about how we as a family aren't very loving towards one another. I know it has something to do with us being "Mexican", but I remember when Teto passed away I was hugging everyone, and it wasn't just a "hey you" kinda hug, it was more like I love you and I never want to loose you hug. Now that time has gone by I/we take each other for granted and we're back to the "hey you" again. I know we've exposed some terrible dark secrets in our family that are enough to make anyone depressed or overprotective but it has also drawn us apart. I just wanted to ask that we try to remember the good times and try talk at least once a day whether it's by phone, email, text, myspace, facebook, or blogg! Also, we are so quick to judge one another in a negative way and that needs to STOP! If we must give our opinion or advise please make it constrictive criticism not negative or sarcastic (you know who you are)! We shouldn't feel insecure when we're around each other. Why do we have to criticize what we're wearing, how much we weigh, if we have money, if we don't have money, what we drive, etc.... I just can't imagine my life without Dalila (She's always there when I need her) Maribel (keeps me laughing) Marvin (really keeps me laughing) Marisol (my road dog) Cynthia (She got her a Gooood man!) and the list goes on.... I would be fake if I said that I wanted to be "close" to all my siblings but we need to make the best of a situation for the sake of Mom and Dad and our own kids otherwise they'll be distant first cousins and that's terrible ........just remember when the world hands you lemons, make limonada!

thank you. thank you. thank you. (theresa)lol
luv ya'll
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