I was just thinking about how we as a family aren't very loving towards one another. I know it has something to do with us being "Mexican", but I remember when Teto passed away I was hugging everyone, and it wasn't just a "hey you" kinda hug, it was more like I love you and I never want to loose you hug. Now that time has gone by I/we take each other for granted and we're back to the "hey you" again. I know we've exposed some terrible dark secrets in our family that are enough to make anyone depressed or overprotective but it has also drawn us apart. I just wanted to ask that we try to remember the good times and try talk at least once a day whether it's by phone, email, text, myspace, facebook, or blogg! Also, we are so quick to judge one another in a negative way and that needs to STOP! If we must give our opinion or advise please make it constrictive criticism not negative or sarcastic (you know who you are)! We shouldn't feel insecure when we're around each other. Why do we have to criticize what we're wearing, how much we weigh, if we have money, if we don't have money, what we drive, etc.... I just can't imagine my life without Dalila (She's always there when I need her) Maribel (keeps me laughing) Marvin (really keeps me laughing) Marisol (my road dog) Cynthia (She got her a Gooood man!) and the list goes on.... I would be fake if I said that I wanted to be "close" to all my siblings but we need to make the best of a situation for the sake of Mom and Dad and our own kids otherwise they'll be distant first cousins and that's terrible ........just remember when the world hands you lemons, make limonada!
thank you. thank you. thank you. (theresa)lol
luv ya'll
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I think this blog really hit home with my heart and I am sure some of you, as well. I truly believe this blog was sent from God to let us know that we need to come together as a family more, encourage instead of bring down one another, and love one another with brother love. I have to admit, I joined this family approximately in 1999 and I was blown away by the love and unity we had together. I believe, other than the fact of having a wonderful (soon to be) wife (Maribel), this family sealed the deal. As my sister in law stated, we need to get that sense of unity, encouragement, and love back as a family. I agree Sis, the first process in this development is as you stated, we need to be "very loving to one another." In addition, we need to bring God back into this family and into our hearts, as well. Let me share a verse that I go by when dealing with my family, friends, and co-workers that will help us bring us focus back to "loving one another." Proverbs 27:17 states, "As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another." Absorb that verse for a moment and read again. Think about it, God is saying we are like iron. So when 2 pieces of iron strike one another, it will bring sparks. Don't fret, sparks are good. We have some sparks in our family but after the sparks have cleared the iron is sharp and ready to do its work. So, we are going to have disagreements, etc in the family but we have to remember that we need to look at the end result and how sharp we will be after the sparks (criticisms, disagreements, etc) have cleared. Lily, good point earlier, "If we must give our opinion or advise please make it constrictive (constructive...lol) criticism not negative or sarcastic." That statement probably is talking to all of us on this blog and family members alike. Finally, in order for us to be constructive and tactful towards others to continue to sharpen one another; we must keep these words in mind, "My dear brothers & sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires. Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you." (James 1:19-21) Food for thought: A person who accepts constructive criticism is a person who is a good listener, slow to speak and slow to get angry. Thanks all for your time and listening. I look forward hearing some more of your comments and opinions.
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Marvy Marv aka Maribel's Husband
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Wow,wow!!(says Danielle) I really have had the same feelings as you,Lily. Since my father has passed away I have seen less and less of the family and even more so my grandparents. I feel that everytime I come over they are either going through something,someone did something or better yet there is a new issue.Instead of having negative vibes and just not wanting to be around I guess we/I should show support and come together.
ReplyDeleteI also agree that we should start giving constructive criticism.Lets start patting eachother on the back for good work, success and for just being a part of one another's life. I would love to start seeing more of everyone, making time to just hang out even if its at a park in hot weather! Who cares what we do, as long as we're all together. I feel that grandma and grandpa are a bit more sad also because they see how distant we are and how we dont bother to hang out and get together as much.They are getting old and the reality is that we need to enjoy them while we're still here. Coming from someone who lost their dad, u start to think of all the "Should of's, would of's, could of's" after they are gone.However,we are all lucky to still have them so showing some love to them and one another would help boost some of that stress and depression they have.
During the holidays,it feels rushed.No one can stay the whole time,some have to leave early,others are making faces or better yet we're sitting back looking at what the other person is wearing. I'm sorry,but I have decided I dont even want to be around that. I'd rather just not do holidays anymore since they have no meaning in our family. Our holidays are so forced and thats so not how we useto be. I know things have happened in our family to make us fall apart but we were a strong family before. Why did it end and why did we fall apart? We can't continue to live this way!
I am the oldest niece/granddaughter and I am willing to take responsibility to start getting to know my little cousins a bit more. I'm not saying we have to be up one another's butt but I would like to be the "big" cousin they can come to when they need someone to talk to; if they can't go to their parents. I think I've experienced some good and bad and could be of good influence. At least I think so!!...lol I definantly can tell them what not to do!...lol That's for sure.Hmmmm, hello! Andrew doesn't even know my name!!!...lol (well part of that could be cause it's a Spanish name..lol)
Anyhow, I hope that this blog is a way we can keep in touch with one another.Perhaps experss good thoughts, ideas or even ways to make us a better family. We were that once before and some how we lost it along the way.
So what do you say family.... can we make it happen? Lets make these upcoming holidays fun, enjoy one another. Don't you all agree its time we get back to where we were?... I love you all very much. I mean that from the bottom of my heart!!!!
Love,
Capitan in progress
Sorry that it took me so long to respond! But, I do agree with most of the things you all have said. I love my family and I miss the times when we used to get together and bar-b-que and listen to that "musica nortena" that Juan(our brother) will play and we will talk and laugh at anything and everything! Now, I have a feeling that my family thinks I don't want to hang out because I am better off financially than most of the members of my family. This is far from the truth! We all know that so many horrible things have come out in the open (even before Teto's death). These things have created a feeling of mistrust with some of our brothers. I hate it with passion but I must protect my kids first. I am always afraid that those same individuals will try something stupid with my family and I will go "balistic"! Sorry, guys but the truth is that it will never be the same. But for the sake of mom and dad, I think it will be awesome if we do have a once a year family reunion to honor them (just like we see in the movies, you know??) at a niece resort or park and each family gets matching shirts and we plan fun games for the entire family...now this will be an unforgetable event for our parents! and this is all done in a safe environment for all our children! This is better then trying to get together in someone's house and it always ends up a big mess. I might be a very busy person, raising two teens and building a solid business for our future but I will always be here for all of you! Love always...D
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